I was in third grade, helping my mother in her classroom in Denver, when I first noticed a pattern I would spend the rest of my life trying to understand.

A student sat at her desk, glassy-eyed, in front of a worksheet. She had just experienced something devastating at home. School continued as normal.

The worksheet was still due.

I saw this again as a teenager, living a few miles from Columbine. I saw it again years later as a teacher, after losing two of my own students. Each time, the structures around us kept going. The calendar continued. Nobody asked what we were supposed to do with what we were carrying.

That question stayed with me. It shaped how I thought about learning, about grief, about what it actually means to support another person. Eventually it led me into doctoral research focused on how humans learn and change during the hardest periods of their lives.

What I found is simple and rarely taught: we are capable of learning from loss. But almost no one shows us how, or stays with us while we do it.

That is what I do now.

I offer one-on-one conversations for people going through something hard. Grief. Loss. A major life change. A quiet internal question that won't go away.

In a session, I listen carefully and ask questions that help you think more clearly about what you're going through. I don't follow a script. I don't push you toward a particular outcome. I stay curious about your specific experience and follow where the conversation goes.

Sessions are 50 minutes, by phone or video. The first one is free.